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obama-familyEvery couple, regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, background or creed should take notes from Barack & Michelle Obama.

Not only in terms of his presidency but in terms of their interactions. Rarely are a couple so genuinly in tuned with one another. It’s obvious they have what my friend would call a “soultie”, and its not just political front for the cameras. They aren’t one of those couples that need to separate their careers from their relationship, blocking out “business time” from “our time”. They are a team, and as a team, their relationship plays a vital role. If they were fakers, this wouldn’t be possible.

Barack doesn’t reduce Michelle to playing in the background. She was just as much a part of his candidacy as he was, and I’m positive the trend will continue into his presidency. He makes it known that she just might be a tad bit smarter than him. By the same token, she doesn’t try to overshadow him or get on some bra-burning feminist high horse. He is just as proud of her as she is of him and their authenticity resounds the world over. They both know their roles and play their positions expertly.

Michelle doesn’t mess around; she’s quick to tell him how it is. Barack is a real man and I don’t believe he would have it any other way. Can you see him married to some weak “yes-woman” with no backbone? Not a chance. She is very aware of her worth and revels in her femininity, yet she knows how and when to call the shots. They are on the same mental level — something very important in a relationship, let me tell you. They challenge each other, but they aren’t in competition with one another — a difference many couples have trouble deciphering. And he calls her “his rock” and means it. How beautiful is that? Michelle is a real woman and she holds it down.

Furthermore, they aren’t all extra mushy (yuck!) and sentimental. I love that they don’t get outrageously kissy faced or seem to have a need for attention being brought to their relationship. It’s not what you see in the movies or on television. What you see is what you get with the Obamas. They don’t have one of those relationships where you wonder if they ever have disagreements. I know they have disagreements. I can tell Barack annoys Michelle at times and vice versa. But they also seem like a couple that doesn’t yell and scream at one another. When Barack is getting to her, I can see Michelle retreating to read a book or workout while she calms down, then reapproaching the situation. It’s a REAL romance with an authenticity we rarely get a chance to view.

I absolutely love them and cannot wait till we get to see them and their beautiful daughters in action starting January 20, 2009. They are a shining example of what a relationship should be: a business-minded team as well as intimate lovers. YES WE DID!

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Copped this from my buddies over at BlackandMarriedWithKids.com, who always have a plethora of great info. Check it out:

Marriage Maker 1: (In)dependence

Guys like all the things that can come with marriage – the companionship, the safety, a guarantee of having good sheets on the bed and good reasons to change them. But one of the things they fear the most: that they’re going to feel more constricted than David Blaine in an ice block.

While most men understand that being married doesn’t mean that they can play six nights a week like they did in their bachelor days, they also want to feel like they have the blessing, support, and encouragement to play golf with their pals every once in a while, to knock a few back at the sports bar when the big game is on, to still feel free even when they’ve willingly surrendered some independence.

Marriage Maker 2: Adoring, Yet Not Needy

Few things turn a guy on as much as a woman who makes her man feel like he’s the only guy for her. And few things turn off a guy as much as a woman who makes her man feel like he’s the only guy for her.

Right, both statements are the same, but hugely different. It all has to do with where the woman and man are coming from. If they’re equals, they’re not making undue claims on each other, and they can be an even stronger pair. If either one of them is weak and needy, however, that emotional burden can drag both partners down. So, throw your partner some compliments and some assurances, but don’t tell him the planets spin around him.

He knows they don’t, and will question your sanity if you say they do. Especially at the start of a relationship, it won’t hurt for him to know that you’re perfectly OK without him, thank you very much, but that it’s more fun when you’re together. A light touch early can produce strong bonds later.

Marriage Maker 3: An Imaginative Mind

There’s a lot of press these days about men who worry about dating successful women, that they feel their masculinity is threatened if their women make more money or have more power. To that I say baloney (low-fat).

Men are very turned on by women who have big goals, big dreams, and big imaginations – whether they’re career-oriented or not. Because when a woman is driven, that means that she’s moving forward, and the whole family is, too.

Marriage Maker 4: Jekyll and Hyde

Not that we want our partners to flip-flop and pretend to be people they’re not, but there’s something intrinsically exciting about a partner who has the ability to be a sort of chameleon – a little fun and imaginative in bed, yet charming at a family reunion.

It’s the all-in-one woman who can equally pull off the roles of wife, mother, boss, friend, neighbor, vixen. That’s not asking too much, is it? After all, if a guy is going to commit for a lifetime, he’ll want his partner to be able to react to a lifetime’s worth of challenges and opportunities, right?

After hitting it big at the tables in Vegas, a lightbulb went off in the collective brain of J-Lo and Skeletor (aka Marc Anthony) and it came with a note that read, “Let’s renew our vows”. Because something about being in Sin City with thousands of drunk fools just screams romance..

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Sent to me today by a friend. Thought I’d share it with you. 🙂

A store that sells husbands has just opened where a woman
may go to choose a husband from among many men. The
store is composed of 6 floors, and the men increase in positive
attributes as the shopper ascends the flights.

There is, however, a catch. As you open the door to any floor you may
choose a man from that floor, but if you go up a floor, you cannot go
back down except to exit the building.

So a woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband.

On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 – These men have jobs.
The woman reads the sign and says to herself, “Well, that’s better
than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what’s further up?”

So up she goes.

The second floor sign reads:

Floor 2 – These men have jobs and love kids.
The woman remarks to herself, “That’s great, but I wonder what’s
further up?” And up she goes again.

The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 – These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good
looking. “Hmm, better” she says. “But I wonder what’s upstairs?”

The fourth floor sign reads:

Floor 4 – These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking
and help with the housework. “Wow!” exclaims the woman, “very
tempting. BUT, there must be more further up!” And again she heads up
another flight.

The fifth floor sign reads:

Floor 5 – These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking,
help with the housework and have a strong romantic streak. “Oh, mercy
me! But just think… what must be awaiting me further on?” So up to
the sixth floor she goes.

The sixth floor sign reads:

Floor 6 – You a re visitor 3,456,789,012 to this floor. There are no
men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are
impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at The Husband Store and
have a nice day

This morning while having a conversation with two colleagues, colleague A says to colleague B:

 

“I’m sorry that your husband is such a douchebag.”

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!

In honor of all the douchebags out there spreading their never-ending douchebaggery, here is a coupon from the guys at Vegas.com. No, it’s not a joke, this coupon code actually works.

 

Jennifer Hudson recently got engaged to her boyfriend, David Otunga aka Punk from VH1’s I Love New York 2. Here’s the statement released by PEOPLE magazine:

“I can confirm that Jennifer got engaged to her boyfriend David on Friday night in L.A.” says the rep. Otunga, who is known as “Punk” from the reality show I Love New York 2, popped the question with a Neil Lane diamond ring on the Dreamgirls Oscar winner’s 27th birthday. The couple, who have been dating less than a year, both hail from Chicago. Professionally, it is a busy time for Hudson as well. Her debut solo album, Jennifer Hudson, will be in stores Sept. 30, and her next film, The Secret Life of Bees opens on Oct. 17.

WTF??? Ok…is it just me or does Punk from VH1’s I Love New York 2 have a way too much sugar in his tank to be proposing to a woman? His 15 minutes of fame must be dwindling rapidly or something cause you, me and him all know he does not swing on the straight edge.

I mean, seriously…if it walks like a duck and it talks like a duck, its a duck. Word to the wise, Jenny-boo, when he starts begging for anal sex on an ongoing basis, you better run for your life cause he is about to set you up for the okie doke and have you looking like Terry McMillan out here.

Speaking of Terry McMillan…I know I’m not the only one who thinks Punk looks like the spitting image of Terry’s formally downlow and now out-of-the-closet gay ex husband Jonathan Plummer.

(Punk is on the left. Jonathan Plummer on the right. I know, I can’t tell the difference either.)

I’m just saying…


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