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Copped this from my buddies over at BlackandMarriedWithKids.com, who always have a plethora of great info. Check it out:
Marriage Maker 1: (In)dependence
Guys like all the things that can come with marriage – the companionship, the safety, a guarantee of having good sheets on the bed and good reasons to change them. But one of the things they fear the most: that they’re going to feel more constricted than David Blaine in an ice block.
While most men understand that being married doesn’t mean that they can play six nights a week like they did in their bachelor days, they also want to feel like they have the blessing, support, and encouragement to play golf with their pals every once in a while, to knock a few back at the sports bar when the big game is on, to still feel free even when they’ve willingly surrendered some independence.
Marriage Maker 2: Adoring, Yet Not Needy
Few things turn a guy on as much as a woman who makes her man feel like he’s the only guy for her. And few things turn off a guy as much as a woman who makes her man feel like he’s the only guy for her.
Right, both statements are the same, but hugely different. It all has to do with where the woman and man are coming from. If they’re equals, they’re not making undue claims on each other, and they can be an even stronger pair. If either one of them is weak and needy, however, that emotional burden can drag both partners down. So, throw your partner some compliments and some assurances, but don’t tell him the planets spin around him.
He knows they don’t, and will question your sanity if you say they do. Especially at the start of a relationship, it won’t hurt for him to know that you’re perfectly OK without him, thank you very much, but that it’s more fun when you’re together. A light touch early can produce strong bonds later.
Marriage Maker 3: An Imaginative Mind
There’s a lot of press these days about men who worry about dating successful women, that they feel their masculinity is threatened if their women make more money or have more power. To that I say baloney (low-fat).
Men are very turned on by women who have big goals, big dreams, and big imaginations – whether they’re career-oriented or not. Because when a woman is driven, that means that she’s moving forward, and the whole family is, too.
Marriage Maker 4: Jekyll and Hyde
Not that we want our partners to flip-flop and pretend to be people they’re not, but there’s something intrinsically exciting about a partner who has the ability to be a sort of chameleon – a little fun and imaginative in bed, yet charming at a family reunion.
It’s the all-in-one woman who can equally pull off the roles of wife, mother, boss, friend, neighbor, vixen. That’s not asking too much, is it? After all, if a guy is going to commit for a lifetime, he’ll want his partner to be able to react to a lifetime’s worth of challenges and opportunities, right?
Jennifer Hudson recently got engaged to her boyfriend, David Otunga aka Punk from VH1’s I Love New York 2. Here’s the statement released by PEOPLE magazine:
“I can confirm that Jennifer got engaged to her boyfriend David on Friday night in L.A.” says the rep. Otunga, who is known as “Punk” from the reality show I Love New York 2, popped the question with a Neil Lane diamond ring on the Dreamgirls Oscar winner’s 27th birthday. The couple, who have been dating less than a year, both hail from Chicago. Professionally, it is a busy time for Hudson as well. Her debut solo , Jennifer Hudson, will be in stores Sept. 30, and her next film, The Secret Life of Bees opens on Oct. 17.
WTF??? Ok…is it just me or does Punk from VH1’s I Love New York 2 have a way too much sugar in his tank to be proposing to a woman? His 15 minutes of fame must be dwindling rapidly or something cause you, me and him all know he does not swing on the straight edge.
I mean, seriously…if it walks like a duck and it talks like a duck, its a duck. Word to the wise, Jenny-boo, when he starts begging for anal sex on an ongoing basis, you better run for your life cause he is about to set you up for the okie doke and have you looking like Terry McMillan out here.
Speaking of Terry McMillan…I know I’m not the only one who thinks Punk looks like the spitting image of Terry’s formally downlow and now out-of-the-closet gay ex husband Jonathan Plummer.
(Punk is on the left. Jonathan Plummer on the right. I know, I can’t tell the difference either.)
I’m just saying…