Not only in terms of his presidency but in terms of their interactions. Rarely are a couple so genuinly in tuned with one another. It’s obvious they have what my friend would call a “soultie”, and its not just political front for the cameras. They aren’t one of those couples that need to separate their careers from their relationship, blocking out “business time” from “our time”. They are a team, and as a team, their relationship plays a vital role. If they were fakers, this wouldn’t be possible.
Barack doesn’t reduce Michelle to playing in the background. She was just as much a part of his candidacy as he was, and I’m positive the trend will continue into his presidency. He makes it known that she just might be a tad bit smarter than him. By the same token, she doesn’t try to overshadow him or get on some bra-burning feminist high horse. He is just as proud of her as she is of him and their authenticity resounds the world over. They both know their roles and play their positions expertly.
Michelle doesn’t mess around; she’s quick to tell him how it is. Barack is a real man and I don’t believe he would have it any other way. Can you see him married to some weak “yes-woman” with no backbone? Not a chance. She is very aware of her worth and revels in her femininity, yet she knows how and when to call the shots. They are on the same mental level — something very important in a relationship, let me tell you. They challenge each other, but they aren’t in competition with one another — a difference many couples have trouble deciphering. And he calls her “his rock” and means it. How beautiful is that? Michelle is a real woman and she holds it down.
Furthermore, they aren’t all extra mushy (yuck!) and sentimental. I love that they don’t get outrageously kissy faced or seem to have a need for attention being brought to their relationship. It’s not what you see in the movies or on television. What you see is what you get with the Obamas. They don’t have one of those relationships where you wonder if they ever have disagreements. I know they have disagreements. I can tell Barack annoys Michelle at times and vice versa. But they also seem like a couple that doesn’t yell and scream at one another. When Barack is getting to her, I can see Michelle retreating to read a book or workout while she calms down, then reapproaching the situation. It’s a REAL romance with an authenticity we rarely get a chance to view.
I absolutely love them and cannot wait till we get to see them and their beautiful daughters in action starting January 20, 2009. They are a shining example of what a relationship should be: a business-minded team as well as intimate lovers. YES WE DID!
Ok people. The BIG DAY is here. Here’s a few things to remember today while you’re out getting your vote on:
- Lines WILL (not might…WILL) be incredibly and unusually long. Do not get discouraged. Bring your Ipod, drinks, snacks, and your cell phone to check out updates to the If It Walks blog (hopefully you have a web browser on your phone). If your boss is trippin’, give them a nice warm mug of STFU and carry on to the polls. Most polls open at 6am.
- DO NOT wear any candidate’s paraphernalia to the polls–it is against the rules in several states.
- Verify your polling place NOW. CLICK HERE to verify.
- DO NOT let a poll worker tell you that you are not registered or cannot vote there when you believe otherwise. Call the Civil Rights Division of the US Dept. of Justice at (800) 253-3931.
- Voting on your state and local officials and issues are just as important as the Presidential candidate. Look up that info for your area NOW.
- Shenanigans are very likely to pop off Election Tuesday. Keep your cool and call the above number for assistance.
- Take YOUR ID. Also bring your voter registration card just in case.
- You CANNOT vote on Nov. 5th, despite what some people are saying.
- Take others to the polls who can’t make it there on their own.
- GET EXCITED!
Oh, did you really think the hood-fab weddings were over? NOPE! This lovely couple thought having their wedding reception at McDonald’s was a good idea. Now maybe they were simply trying to save some $$, but let’s hope there’s some sort of sentimental value here and assume perhaps the couple met at McDonald’s. But for some reason, I don’t think that’s it.
Copped this from my buddies over at BlackandMarriedWithKids.com, who always have a plethora of great info. Check it out:
Marriage Maker 1: (In)dependence
Guys like all the things that can come with marriage – the companionship, the safety, a guarantee of having good sheets on the bed and good reasons to change them. But one of the things they fear the most: that they’re going to feel more constricted than David Blaine in an ice block.
While most men understand that being married doesn’t mean that they can play six nights a week like they did in their bachelor days, they also want to feel like they have the blessing, support, and encouragement to play golf with their pals every once in a while, to knock a few back at the sports bar when the big game is on, to still feel free even when they’ve willingly surrendered some independence.
Marriage Maker 2: Adoring, Yet Not Needy
Few things turn a guy on as much as a woman who makes her man feel like he’s the only guy for her. And few things turn off a guy as much as a woman who makes her man feel like he’s the only guy for her.
Right, both statements are the same, but hugely different. It all has to do with where the woman and man are coming from. If they’re equals, they’re not making undue claims on each other, and they can be an even stronger pair. If either one of them is weak and needy, however, that emotional burden can drag both partners down. So, throw your partner some compliments and some assurances, but don’t tell him the planets spin around him.
He knows they don’t, and will question your sanity if you say they do. Especially at the start of a relationship, it won’t hurt for him to know that you’re perfectly OK without him, thank you very much, but that it’s more fun when you’re together. A light touch early can produce strong bonds later.
Marriage Maker 3: An Imaginative Mind
There’s a lot of press these days about men who worry about dating successful women, that they feel their masculinity is threatened if their women make more money or have more power. To that I say baloney (low-fat).
Men are very turned on by women who have big goals, big dreams, and big imaginations – whether they’re career-oriented or not. Because when a woman is driven, that means that she’s moving forward, and the whole family is, too.
Marriage Maker 4: Jekyll and Hyde
Not that we want our partners to flip-flop and pretend to be people they’re not, but there’s something intrinsically exciting about a partner who has the ability to be a sort of chameleon – a little fun and imaginative in bed, yet charming at a family reunion.
It’s the all-in-one woman who can equally pull off the roles of wife, mother, boss, friend, neighbor, vixen. That’s not asking too much, is it? After all, if a guy is going to commit for a lifetime, he’ll want his partner to be able to react to a lifetime’s worth of challenges and opportunities, right?
I am in the last 6 weeks of my Master’s degree and things are getting really crazy right now. So this is my advanced apology in the event my blogging slows down a little over the next few weeks. I will still be blogging but it might not be as often. Sorry! Pray for my sanity! Thanks!
With the most historical election of most of our lifetimes coming up tomorrow, I urge you to get your behinds out and vote! If you haven’t early voted (or didn’t have the opportunity to do so, in some states), it’s not only your right, but your duty to vote. Stay in line, even if the lines are astronomically long (which I’m positive they will be). Should your polling place close while you are in line, do NOT leave. No mattter what anyone says, no one can make you leave if you are already in line. Do not let them turn you away. Know your rights and exercise them! Should any “issues” (and you know what I’m talking about) arise while you are attempting to vote, call 1-866-OUR-VOTE (that’s 1-866-687-8683 for folks like me with a QWERTY keyboard phone) to get the assistance you need to protect your vote. Let’s make history, people!